Marriage Solutions

Note: All information on this page is meant for those with marital issues (save a marriage by shearing)

Solutions to all Marital Problems

The most common complaints seen in therapist’s offices include depression, anxiety and

Relationship dissatisfaction. We are all aware of the growing divorce rate. Everyone knows the

Horror stories about sitting in courtrooms, dividing assets and playing tug of war with the

Children. What people don't know is that this doesn't have to happen. If even one person is

Willing to do things differently a relationship can survive and flourish.

Couples talk a lot about not being able to communicate. Unfortunately, they communicate plenty

But the way they do it is destructive. Sometimes just committing and practicing talking to your

partner the way you would talk to a friend coworker or supervisor can make a huge difference.

Many people believe that conflict and anger are signs of a relationship failing. Conflict can be

Productive if ground rules are established for discussing heated topics. Conflict can be either

Destructive or constructive depending on how it is handled.

Couples often say they don't feel like a priority to their spouse because families are so stressed

And there is no time together.

Having a specific plan about how to make this happen can make a

Huge difference because time and opportunity seldom appear out of the blue. Couples can stay

Together if they have different backgrounds, beliefs and interests.

They can learn effective ways to

Manage differences and nurture what they have in common.

Other common problems focus on finances, parenting issues and blended or extended family

Relationships. Finding win-win compromises and clarifying those compromises in concrete terms

Can provide very workable formulas for success.

Often couples talk about not feeling loved. There is no doubt that men and women speak

Different languages regarding emotional issues. One of the keys to resolving this is an open

Conversation defining what makes each person feel loved.

Too often people show love in the way

They want to receive it assuming it what their partner wants and completely missing the target.

Unfortunately, there are those situations where couples decide that a marriage cannot survive.

The good news is that the legal profession has begun a new movement called Collaborative

Divorce that helps couples work through divorce issues without antagonism or undue conflict and

Bitterness.

Every married person owes it to themselves, their children and their loved ones to do everything

Humanly possible to make their marriage survive.

Intact families have healthier children, healthier finances and longer more satisfied lives. If this

can't happen a healthy collaborative divorce is the best option to accomplish health.

Note: All information on this page is meant for those with marital issues (save a marriage by shearing)

Wives, what turns your husband on? Is it special clothing (or lack of it), perfume, a special food, flirting, anything and everything. You know best. Don’t make him beg for sex. Being surprised and wanted can be a turn on. He’ll appreciate the effort.

When asked, “If you could come back as anyone after you die, who would it be?” Winston Churchill thought for a second, turned to his wife, and said, “Mrs. Churchill’s second husband.” Make a tribute to your spouse today.

Sexual intercourse is one of the joys of married love, but our sexual desires may differ. If (when) “desire discrepancy” appears in your marriage, sometimes one sacrifices for the love of the other. Sometimes it’s the reverse.

Temper Taming Tip #3: A child’s disobedience can trigger rage from a parent. Try pre-empting your anger with a plan. Inform your child (ideally after discussion) of what consequence will follow disobedience. Then, don’t yell, just calmly enforce the plan.

Temper Taming Tip #2: Noise can lower your resistance to anger. If whining, TV, roughhousing, or crowds are on your nerves, lower the decibel level. Call for a “Quiet Time Out.” For example, turn off the TV, have kids go outside (or to separate rooms). Talk softly yourself.

Temper Taming Tip #1: Check your own temperature first. Maybe you’re tired after a long day or feel stressed or worried. Try strengthening your resistance. Taking a short nap helps some. Others may listen to quiet music or take a bath or a walk.

(Reader’s Tip) If your spouse asks what’s wrong, don’t say “nothing” if there is. Even if you can’t talk about it right away, let them know there is something that needs to be resolved.